She's here!!!!!
That's right I gave birth to a very healthy baby girl. She
is now twelve days old, I've finally had time to get on here and write about the
exciting news (:
So here's the story. Just a warning it may be a bit detailed, especially if you are not used to birthing talk.
At around 2 am on the 8th of September I started to get contractions and so I
jumped in the bath tub turned on the hot water and stayed in there for about 45 minutes until my husband joined in. He was massaging me and I was breathing
through each 'wave' (a more positive word I chose for my contractions). After I
got out my husband checked my cervix...I know that sounds weird but hey it’s
really not that hard and I'd rather do it at home rather than driving to the
hospital to find out. So sure enough I was almost 4 cm dilated. So they usually
keep you in the hospital when you’re at 4 cm and having contractions 3 minutes
apart, but I didn't want to go to the hospital until I knew for sure I was in
labor. My contractions
were about 2-5 minutes apart. I didn't have major pain so I lay on the couch
and fell asleep for a little bit. My husband woke me up about an hour and a
half later and we left to go meet my mom, youngest sister, and grandma at the
hotel they were staying at to eat breakfast (they came down for the birth).
Once I got out of the house my contractions disappeared. I think it might have
been the comfort of being home was so relaxing that I was able to progress
better rather than being out and about. So that day I bought some herbal Raspberry
Leaf tea from our local Health Foods store, it’s been said that it helps women
to go into labor quicker and to ease the pain. At around 9 pm I drank about 6
tea bags haha. I started to get contractions again but they were not painful at
all but I knew I was having contractions…this time I didn't keep track of how
far apart they were because I was tired of counting contractions lol. Anyways we
checked my cervix and stripped my membranes more. Stripping your membranes is a
natural way of inducing labor it releases a hormone called prostaglandin which
can ripen your cervix. The only reason why we were really trying to naturally
induce labor was because my family was only going to be there that weekend
and they really wanted to meet the baby before they go home. Also my husband
had called off work because the night before he was up with me all night and
they gave him a couple days off in case the baby came.
That night I started to bleeding bright red that was pretty heavy so we decided to head to the hospital in case anything happened. We get there and I’m 4 cm dilated and 90% effaced with waves that were 2 minutes apart. They were not painful at all, I just knew I would get contractions well because of that annoying monitor that keeps track of your contractions and also because my belly would turn into a rock. I then asked my nurse when would be a good time to call my mom, I didn't want her to come too early I just wanted to experience it with my husband for a while. She said once you can’t smile anymore then that would be a great time. In my head I was like…Well that’s something to look forward to -_- So they kept me there and I walked around the hospital once with my husband and they gave me an exercise ball to sit on. Then they monitored me and I fell asleep after since I didn't sleep much the night before.
Once I woke up they noticed my contractions were really close together. They checked me again and I was at 6cm dilated and 100% effaced. Surprisingly my water still wasn't broken. The doctor came in, unfortunately it was whichever doc is on call will deliver your baby, which I really was not a fan of considering we had a birth plan set up that was really important to us which needed to be discussed beforehand; so the doctor came in wanting to break my water not asking me if it was okay. I wanted to wait until I was at 7 cm at least which is when you hit transition. I didn't want to do it too early since it can make labor more painful, and since I was already at 6 cm I figured it would break on its own soon I just had to go on a walk rather than sleeping. As I begin explaining I wanted to wait he starts putting the instrument to break my water in me and says well you’re about to break anyways it will help you…and then there it goes water just starts soaking my bed. My words were kind of taken from me but oh well, I couldn't do anything at that point and didn't want to become negative. But anyways, he said I was doing great and he said I have a great tolerance to pain and that usually at this point is the strong hard labor. I started to get nervous because that made it real, I began to think oh wow this baby is coming any moment now. I then got into the shower and washed myself and tried to relax as much as possible. The waves were stronger and a minute apart and they weren't painful I was able to easily breathe and work through them. Once I got back into bed the nurse asked me what my pain was from a 1-10 my answer was “umm…a 2?” lol. She was like wow you are doing great. She had a student with her helping her and it was going to be her first time witnessing a birth. Usually I get a little aggravated when they would bring in students during my appointments but this time she seemed really sweet and humble and considerate so I didn't mind her being there to help me. She was also excited to witness an all-natural birth. She was amazed at how hard my stomach would get when I would get a contraction.
Around 8 am we dimmed the lights and my husband was massaging me to get my mind off the waves. This was the point where I started to feel the pain. My husband was so wonderful and helpful during my labor I was so grateful. But of course I would let myself get irritable at times and would tell him stuff like ‘Please while I’m having a contraction just be quiet’ I know that doesn't sound bad considering most women curse up a storm during labor, but for me and my hubby it was considered my rude side haha. Whenever I would let myself get irritable the pain felt worse. So I would quickly calm down and take very deep breaths. Each wave that came I would go to a different place in my mind I would imagine me and Sam with our baby on Christmas, holding her, loving her, going places, and just laying around at home. It was wonderful, many times I would find myself so deep in thought I would forget I was in labor until the waves would go away. And I would say to myself…”oh yeah, I’m about to give birth haha”. It is so amazing what your mind can do. Another thing I would do is…I would constantly be praying and thanking my Heavenly Father for this opportunity and for everything that was happening to me. I felt a great love for my husband at that time and it was so easing and relaxing to have him there.
So I started to feel a lot of pressure so the nurse checked me again to see the progress in my dilation. It was so painful to lay down flat on my back…I felt like I could control my waves more if I was sitting up right. I finally gave in and laid down. I was 7 and a half cm dilated. When she said that, I was mortified. I was in transition state for over two hours already and only progressed 1 ½ cm!!! I felt like I was going to go through it forever haha. I had to really focus at that point because I was starting to loose myself so I started praying and I was begging for my Father in Heaven to be with me and help me.
The doctor came in again, and he was concerned that my water broke already and I was progressing so quick before and now it was at a still point. “This isn't right at this point she should already be fully dilated!” I was so scared by the way they walked in and what he was saying. I got so sad, in my head I started to think “Crap! They better not do an emergency c-section!!!” The doctor then said, “Okay, I’m going to try something…do me a favor. When I say push, you push.” I don’t know what he did but he examined me. I pushed. “Alright! You’re fully dilated!” he then tells the nurse to let him know when I start crowning. Man, was I relieved. I was also nervous, we were just minutes from seeing our daughter.
So the second part of labor began. I started to feel crazy pressure and I told my husband “Is it too late to ask for that epidural?” I laughed after. Which brought me to the thought about what my first nurse said about me not being about to smile anymore. I’m glad I was able to still have a positive attitude and laugh with my husband. So I started to push. One thing I regret is not giving in…I kind of wanted to suck her back into me instead of letting her come out. But there was no turning back. This was the part of labor I did not like the most. Initially I wanted to breathe through these waves of pushing her out rather than the whole nurses counting and yelling PUSH PUSH PUSH! Okay now RELAX RELAX! There is no way I can relax through that. The contractions push out your baby no matter what you do you can’t stop it. I was pushing and clenching my jaw which will cause you to tear your perineum. But they kept forcing me to push, I know no one can force you to push but when you have like four nurses and a doctor in the room yelling push it’s so hard not to and even harder to relax through it. It was the only time through my whole labor I wasn't able to relax through. My husband was telling me just breathe through them and relax through the contractions, but the nurses said “No she needs to push!” He saw the look in my eyes and how sad and tired I was from the pushing he knew it wasn't going the way we wanted.
Then, to make things more interesting…the doctor asks me (in the middle of me pushing)
“And let me ask you, why don’t you want an episiotomy?”
I then screamed, “WHY SHOULD I?” haha.
“You’re going to tear no matter what. You’re already tearing. If I cut you now you’ll have your baby now. If I don’t you’re going to be pushing for a while.” He said.
At this point I do not have enough energy to explain to him how I even talked to a doctor a week before about my birth plan and she even suggested I don’t get an episiotomy. She admitted the only reason they do them is for the convenience of the doctor…they don’t have to sew up a crooked line just a straight cut. Also, a natural tear heals quicker and better. Episiotomies also can cause the mother to tear that same cut on the next birth. So I just ignore him and my husband says NO to the episiotomy, but of course he ignores him and keeps asking.Yes I tore, but it was before she even came out I think it was from the straining, but it’s a very small tear. The next push after he tells me I’ll be pushing for a while…My healthy baby girl comes out screaming (:
That night I started to bleeding bright red that was pretty heavy so we decided to head to the hospital in case anything happened. We get there and I’m 4 cm dilated and 90% effaced with waves that were 2 minutes apart. They were not painful at all, I just knew I would get contractions well because of that annoying monitor that keeps track of your contractions and also because my belly would turn into a rock. I then asked my nurse when would be a good time to call my mom, I didn't want her to come too early I just wanted to experience it with my husband for a while. She said once you can’t smile anymore then that would be a great time. In my head I was like…Well that’s something to look forward to -_- So they kept me there and I walked around the hospital once with my husband and they gave me an exercise ball to sit on. Then they monitored me and I fell asleep after since I didn't sleep much the night before.
Once I woke up they noticed my contractions were really close together. They checked me again and I was at 6cm dilated and 100% effaced. Surprisingly my water still wasn't broken. The doctor came in, unfortunately it was whichever doc is on call will deliver your baby, which I really was not a fan of considering we had a birth plan set up that was really important to us which needed to be discussed beforehand; so the doctor came in wanting to break my water not asking me if it was okay. I wanted to wait until I was at 7 cm at least which is when you hit transition. I didn't want to do it too early since it can make labor more painful, and since I was already at 6 cm I figured it would break on its own soon I just had to go on a walk rather than sleeping. As I begin explaining I wanted to wait he starts putting the instrument to break my water in me and says well you’re about to break anyways it will help you…and then there it goes water just starts soaking my bed. My words were kind of taken from me but oh well, I couldn't do anything at that point and didn't want to become negative. But anyways, he said I was doing great and he said I have a great tolerance to pain and that usually at this point is the strong hard labor. I started to get nervous because that made it real, I began to think oh wow this baby is coming any moment now. I then got into the shower and washed myself and tried to relax as much as possible. The waves were stronger and a minute apart and they weren't painful I was able to easily breathe and work through them. Once I got back into bed the nurse asked me what my pain was from a 1-10 my answer was “umm…a 2?” lol. She was like wow you are doing great. She had a student with her helping her and it was going to be her first time witnessing a birth. Usually I get a little aggravated when they would bring in students during my appointments but this time she seemed really sweet and humble and considerate so I didn't mind her being there to help me. She was also excited to witness an all-natural birth. She was amazed at how hard my stomach would get when I would get a contraction.
Around 8 am we dimmed the lights and my husband was massaging me to get my mind off the waves. This was the point where I started to feel the pain. My husband was so wonderful and helpful during my labor I was so grateful. But of course I would let myself get irritable at times and would tell him stuff like ‘Please while I’m having a contraction just be quiet’ I know that doesn't sound bad considering most women curse up a storm during labor, but for me and my hubby it was considered my rude side haha. Whenever I would let myself get irritable the pain felt worse. So I would quickly calm down and take very deep breaths. Each wave that came I would go to a different place in my mind I would imagine me and Sam with our baby on Christmas, holding her, loving her, going places, and just laying around at home. It was wonderful, many times I would find myself so deep in thought I would forget I was in labor until the waves would go away. And I would say to myself…”oh yeah, I’m about to give birth haha”. It is so amazing what your mind can do. Another thing I would do is…I would constantly be praying and thanking my Heavenly Father for this opportunity and for everything that was happening to me. I felt a great love for my husband at that time and it was so easing and relaxing to have him there.
So I started to feel a lot of pressure so the nurse checked me again to see the progress in my dilation. It was so painful to lay down flat on my back…I felt like I could control my waves more if I was sitting up right. I finally gave in and laid down. I was 7 and a half cm dilated. When she said that, I was mortified. I was in transition state for over two hours already and only progressed 1 ½ cm!!! I felt like I was going to go through it forever haha. I had to really focus at that point because I was starting to loose myself so I started praying and I was begging for my Father in Heaven to be with me and help me.
The doctor came in again, and he was concerned that my water broke already and I was progressing so quick before and now it was at a still point. “This isn't right at this point she should already be fully dilated!” I was so scared by the way they walked in and what he was saying. I got so sad, in my head I started to think “Crap! They better not do an emergency c-section!!!” The doctor then said, “Okay, I’m going to try something…do me a favor. When I say push, you push.” I don’t know what he did but he examined me. I pushed. “Alright! You’re fully dilated!” he then tells the nurse to let him know when I start crowning. Man, was I relieved. I was also nervous, we were just minutes from seeing our daughter.
So the second part of labor began. I started to feel crazy pressure and I told my husband “Is it too late to ask for that epidural?” I laughed after. Which brought me to the thought about what my first nurse said about me not being about to smile anymore. I’m glad I was able to still have a positive attitude and laugh with my husband. So I started to push. One thing I regret is not giving in…I kind of wanted to suck her back into me instead of letting her come out. But there was no turning back. This was the part of labor I did not like the most. Initially I wanted to breathe through these waves of pushing her out rather than the whole nurses counting and yelling PUSH PUSH PUSH! Okay now RELAX RELAX! There is no way I can relax through that. The contractions push out your baby no matter what you do you can’t stop it. I was pushing and clenching my jaw which will cause you to tear your perineum. But they kept forcing me to push, I know no one can force you to push but when you have like four nurses and a doctor in the room yelling push it’s so hard not to and even harder to relax through it. It was the only time through my whole labor I wasn't able to relax through. My husband was telling me just breathe through them and relax through the contractions, but the nurses said “No she needs to push!” He saw the look in my eyes and how sad and tired I was from the pushing he knew it wasn't going the way we wanted.
Then, to make things more interesting…the doctor asks me (in the middle of me pushing)
“And let me ask you, why don’t you want an episiotomy?”
I then screamed, “WHY SHOULD I?” haha.
“You’re going to tear no matter what. You’re already tearing. If I cut you now you’ll have your baby now. If I don’t you’re going to be pushing for a while.” He said.
At this point I do not have enough energy to explain to him how I even talked to a doctor a week before about my birth plan and she even suggested I don’t get an episiotomy. She admitted the only reason they do them is for the convenience of the doctor…they don’t have to sew up a crooked line just a straight cut. Also, a natural tear heals quicker and better. Episiotomies also can cause the mother to tear that same cut on the next birth. So I just ignore him and my husband says NO to the episiotomy, but of course he ignores him and keeps asking.Yes I tore, but it was before she even came out I think it was from the straining, but it’s a very small tear. The next push after he tells me I’ll be pushing for a while…My healthy baby girl comes out screaming (:
All worth it! Every single second
of my pregnancy, labor, and delivery! The feeling knowing you did it naturally
feels so wonderful, like you can take on the world now.
Right away she came and laid on my chest (the same way she
is now). Love at first sight. My husband and I looked at each other and I just
fell in love with him even more. We didn't say anything but I felt his powerful
love. She laid on my chest for about an hour before I finally gave her to the
nurse to get weighed. We refuse the Vitamin K shot and the newborn screening.
Vitamin K is for clotting blood since the baby is unable to clot their blood
right after birth, I would have gotten it if I gave birth to a boy and he was
getting circumcised right away which I wouldn't do either. It has also been
linked with newborns and cancer. Other than that there is no reason for a
baby to be bleeding heavily right after birth anyways. They receive all their Vitamin
K around 8 days old. And for the newborn screening it is to check their blood
and it can also see if your baby has but my baby girl is barely getting
used to so many sensations like gravity, loud noise, breathing, crying, seeing,
and so on; the last thing I want is for her to feel a needle poke her heel. You
can also do the screening on your pediatrician appointment, rather than doing
it right away.
So we named her
Aviana Olea Cadavieco born on September 10th, 2013 weighing at 7 lbs and
1 oz and 19 inches long.
My mom and husband
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